Telling your child that you and your spouse are getting a divorce may be one of the most difficult conversations if you have with your child. Even if your child is mature, it doesn’t mean your child won’t struggle understanding and accepting that in the future he or she will have two different homes. Sometimes, a child needs an outlet that isn’t speaking with his or her parents about the divorce, but, instead, connecting with others who have similar experiences. Reading is an outlet for your child that can also be used as a discussion tactic to have an honest and forthcoming conversation with your child.
More books are on shelves in libraries, bookstores, and tablet/readers that not only have characters with divorced parents but books that help children understand what divorce means for a family. Below are links of children’s literature and young adult novels involving divorcing families:
https://bookriot.com/2019/02/04/childrens-books-about-divorce
https://bookriot.com/2018/04/16/ya-books-about-divorce/
If your child isn’t a big reader, there are other resources. You could inform your child’s school to keep an eye on your child’s emotional state and alert school administration that you and your spouse are getting a divorce, and, as a result, your child may need to talk to the school counselor. It is likely that one of your child’s friends at school has divorced parents or parents who are also divorcing, you could set up a playdate for your child and his or her friend. You and your spouse getting a divorce doesn’t mean that your child is alone; your child still has you and your spouse to care for his or her emotional needs.
If you have questions related to a possible dissolution of marriage, child custody questions, or parenting time concerns, please do not hesitate to contact our office (952) 224-9410
